How to Know You’re Getting Better

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I’ve been thinking about the way we talk about personal change. We love words like healing and growth, and they’re not bad words, but they almost always carry this built-in assumption that we were broken before. That something was wrong with us and now we have to fix it. I used to believe that. I think most of us do for a while. It’s an easy hook for self-help culture: you’re broken, here’s the fix. But over time, I realized I didn’t want to spend my whole life fixing myself. I wanted to live.